Punishment Versus Discipline

01/08/07 ~ I woke up this morning & performed my normal oral duties to my Master. I told myself today would be a GOOD day & that I would make Master proud of me. We had a long talk today. As Master & I are both new to the BDSW scene, Master assigned me the task of doing extra research on the lifestyle. We would like to attend functions with other couples like us and really stay true to the lifestyle. One of the main things I learned today was that each Master/slave or Dom/sub tweek this life style to fit them. There is no “perfect” way as everyone is different. I also learned that in order for me to visit message boards & so forth that I must learn how to type in a respectful way as a slave. I learned that slaves/subs address themselves in the 3rd person or in lower case letters. They always refer to their Masters/Dom in capital letters & by the title of their preference & to not assume. I will start typing in this way from now on so that I may get practice in. my Master wants me to call him Daddy so this slave will do call Him that from now on. this slave will also address myself as “this slave” or by the name given to me by Daddy "DovesCagedBird".

i also learned that Daddy & i have been a bit confused. There is a difference between Discipline & Punishment. Discipline is to be used so that this slave may become a better slave. It is used to “train” this slave (for lack of a better way of putting it). Punishment is used when this slave has done something that Daddy does not approve of. this slave should always thank Daddy after punishment has been given.

this slave also learned that Daddy & i should have a set Goals, Rituals/Expectations, Disciplines as well as Punishments. These things should be in writing so that there is no confusion. Daddy is free to update these things at any time after discussion & including them. W/we were on the right track when W/we started this lifestyle. W/we just needed some guidance. Daddy and i are currently working on putting these things in writing. See this article for more information: http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenpunishment.htm

I also learned there are names for specific positions. Daddy has requested that this slave learn these positions and i must say this slave is enjoying all the new information i’m learning. Not only is it interesting, but i get a sense of purpose from them. W/we have decided to incorporate a different contract with B/both of us agreeing to destroy the first contract. this slave also stumbled across set rules for slaves. W/we have decided to incorporate these also with a bit of editing for our taste along with the ritual/rules W/we have already come up with.

When Daddy got home from work this slave was so excited to share what i had learned. Daddy was very eager to listen to this slave. Daddy was proud of me as He is eager to learn also. W/we have decided to study together at least an hour a day on the life style.
Daddy performed the normal sexual & non sexual disciplines on me. this slave performed the normal rituals/rules for my Daddy. He was proud of me & told me that He loved me multiple times. Today was a very good day. i love Daddy so much.